Your child is not bad, it's just that you are not raising him well. 2026

We are not saying that every time a child behaves inappropriately it is the parents' fault, it is clear that children are children and respond to larger impulses, in addition to those of upbringing and education, such as tiredness, sleep or hunger. But many times we tend to justify their attitudes with the phrase “he is a child” when, in reality, the child is spoiled, that is, what is underlying are parents who are not educating their child in the most constructive way possible. Our mistakes and successes as parents mark their attitudes towards life and the different situations that they have to live through. That is why it is important that we review if we are educating the little ones well, for their current and future happiness.

8 signs that you are spoiling your child

1. Disobedient or excessively undisciplined children respond to a typical pattern of lack of limits. Children need rules to be able to develop safely, limits establish the limits of behavior that is considered appropriate at home and with parents and allow them to understand and handle themselves with ease within what is expected of them. This enhances their security and self-esteem. When a child lacks rules, he tends to test the limits of everyone around him and from this, exaggeratedly rebellious and undisciplined attitudes are born. The good thing? Although at this point it will be more difficult for the child to understand and follow rules, we have time to impose them at home.

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2. If your child constantly feels less than others, feels that he is worthless or that he is not going to do anything well, in short, if your child has very low self-esteem, you may not be reinforcing him adequately. Children's self-esteem needs praise from mom and dad to be properly formed. Change the chip and don't make him notice what he does wrong but start positively reinforcing what he does do well, which is surely many things.

3. Children who are not decisive with their problems on a daily basis are children who expect everything to be solved, from a fight at school to homework or a run-in with a teacher, because it has always been mom and dad who have solved their problems. These children end up not fighting or making an effort to achieve their goals, they become lazy children who have become accustomed to others (usually their parents) fighting their battles, so when they have no choice but to fight them themselves they will not know how to do it because they will never have learned how to do it. We understand that when we see the child suffer from an inconvenience, we want to protect him and solve it ourselves, but we must repress that impulse so that they develop their security and so that they understand that in this life nothing comes for free (or that generally it will not be that way).

4. If we jump to pick him up from the ground at the slightest scratch, if we always help him get on and off the swing, if we watch him in panic if he tries to climb a tree or you scream in horror if he goes fast on the bike or you get scared because you think he is going to fall... then you are a parent who overprotects his child and the consequences of that can be various: children who are afraid, insecure, who believe they are incapable of the achievements of their age, so they develop a withdrawn and shy personality; On the other hand, we can find children who do not manage their frustration well and, then, throw a tantrum over any stupid thing. Try to control your impulses, children fall and get frustrated and it is part of normal and healthy development and learning.

5. When a child feels excessive jealousy or envy of his siblings, cousins ​​or friends, he is probably comparing himself to other children. This makes the child feel inferior and develop animosity towards the people with whom the comparison is made and he will end up doing so with everyone he considers who may be susceptible to being compared to him, which will increase his anxiety and insecurity. Do not compare, reinforce the positive and channel the things that can be improved but never, never compare two children because each one is different and has their virtues and defects.

6. If your child has problems controlling his impulses, does not know how to express his feelings, is distrustful of others, it is a consequence of a lack of affection and attachment. We are not saying that he is not loved, but rather that the child probably does not feel that way, or does not receive it in the way he needs. In this case, we must make an extra effort to show the love and affection we feel, especially during the childhood stage, which is where the foundations of the child's personality and character are laid.

7. When a child lies a lot it may be due to the righteousness of the parents. Parents who are too strict, with high expectations and who are disappointed with the slightest inconvenience generate in children the need to lie to avoid anger, anger, punishment or even the contempt that they feel their parents express in certain situations.

8. If your child has general bad behavior with a lot of crying, screaming, constant tantrums, if he does not listen to reasons or even shows a setback in development, then it is time to assess whether the attention you are giving the child is adequate or what he needs. Spending time with them and showing interest in their concerns and their lives is essential for them to learn and develop in a healthy way.

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