Work, home, children, wife, girlfriend, mother, partner...who am I? 2026

As a woman, today you want to be able to combine your professional field with the practice of motherhood, in addition to continuing to feel alive in the world. And this is possible, but it is an art that requires training and attention.

It is very common to want to cover everything, do it well and be impeccable in its care. Many times you find that the most demanding is precisely yourself.

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With this scenario and expectations, it is normal for something to suffer, and it is almost always one of our pillars of life: our partner, physical health, and emotional health.

Sometimes the demand you want to meet is very high and causes you to fall into physical and mental stress, making you feel exhausted and demanding a lot of yourself, in addition to sending you guilt messages that do not help you at all.

When situations begin to overcome you and you feel that you are not achieving everything, it is important to stop and reflect so that these circumstances do not continue over time, just as the one-time stress does not become chronic, forming an additional problem.

It is important to detect in time if you are starting to be a mother with stress so that you can detect it and stop it in time.

If everything bothers you, if you are more irritable, if you forget or forget very frequently, if you are tired all the time, if you argue very often with your partner, if you begin to not recognize yourself or if you harbor feelings of guilt, it is possible that you are experiencing stress.

First of all, don't get overwhelmed and make use of these tips that we propose to improve the quality of your life right now.

They want to see you well

Think that your children, your partner, family and friends want to see you happy, so you are going to give importance and priority to taking care of yourself and taking care of your health in order to be well. This is very important for the emotional stability of the home because if you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of yourself.

Don't punish yourself

If you don't achieve everything, don't beat yourself up, nothing happens. This is something specific, you do what you can. Resting is also part of it and if the house is a mess, put it into perspective, or if there are only eggs in the fridge, put it into perspective... Tomorrow or the next day you will do the shopping, but rest. You can help yourself by learning to delegate or organize yourself with a good household agenda. Think that housework and taking care of the house is everyone's job, it is not yours.

Establish norms and routines

Have that space at night for you and your partner, to disconnect and chat about the day or to be silent or watch a movie together. The little ones will appreciate the order and rest they need and will feel rested the next day. On the other hand, you feel tender again seeing them sleep for a while and relax while you have a more intimate space.

Connect with gratitude in everything you can

This will help you a lot to see things from another perspective. Surely your day is full of stressful things: a boss, a pressing report, a complaint, a couple's argument, a childish tantrum... However, surely there are things that you can be grateful for like that song that was played on the radio and gave you a rush, that series that you like so much, the delicious meal with a co-worker, the reconciliatory message of affection with your partner, that dress that you have booked for the next purchase or that kiss from your children when they see you in the afternoon.

The feeling of gratitude generates endorphins and helps the synthesis of serotonin, being responsible for chemical well-being and the feeling of happiness.

Reset, retune and fall in love with your current life

Sometimes the change in your life can be shocking when you start to form a family and another series of responsibilities to attend to and coordinate. It may take a while to adapt to this new stage, to having other schedules, to the change in your relationship, to the variations in the availability and freedom of time and life, as well as to the contradictions that lead you to feel the burden of the demands of those who depend on you but whom you love even if they exhaust you physically and mentally.

To this we can add that our priorities change. Therefore, it is normal that at times you do not know very well who you are. Before considering drastic decisions, it is important to know that it is something that happens to most women, so it is part of life and adaptation to maturity and family. This stage requires a new creation in which you will see your resilience and reinvent yourself to live in tune with your purposes and meaning in life. This will give you a lot of happiness.

Learn to live with uncertainty and chaos

You have no choice but to trust and live day to day. Trust will make you stop thinking about whether your job will last, whether your children will grow up healthy or whether, for example, your relationship will withstand this moment of stress and “separation.” It is important that you stay focused and live each day with the greatest love, maturity and understanding you can.

Focus on the positive in situations or laugh at them when you can

It will help you de-dramatize and know that this is timely and will pass.

Set priorities

Learn to set limits and say NO. It is important that you prioritize and become selective for many things that previously entered your life.

Help yourself with language

For example, replace phrases like “I don't have time”, “I can't” or “I'm not worth it” with “it's not my priority right now”, “I decide not to do it”, “this is not the time”, etc. Use those phrases that are more realistic about the situation and that mentally help you see the situation with objectivity and support.

Delegate what is not “essential”

Sometimes you can fall into the mistaken idea of thinking that you are essential and tend to take on tasks that do not correspond to you. Be practical, help yourself and delegate. Decide what roles you will occupy and at what times, coordinate at home, with other parents, with your partner, with school...Distinguish what is important or urgent and what is dispensable. Learn to delegate and involve people who want to collaborate and help you in your life.

Disconnect whenever you can

Feel that your life is full of compartments and try to relate them in a healthy way, but when you are in one, remain disconnected from the others, so your mind will rest and you will not exhaust other functions of your brain such as memory and orientation.

Practice balance between physical, mental and spiritual activity

Intellectual and psychological/spiritual cultivation is very healthy for reconnecting, feeling who you are again when you are lost, recharging your battery and being able to continue giving and offering the world all the wonderful things that are in you.

See life as small daily challenges

Every day an adventure, a surprise, a gift, a circumstance, a challenge to overcome... This, on the one hand, will make you bigger and stronger and, on the other, will give your life a lot of meaning to value and enjoy.

Stop, observe and listen

It is very important that you look for spaces of inactivity whenever you can, “not doing is also doing.” Stop, enjoy slowing down activities, practice living “slow”. Listen with an “open ear” starting with yourself. This will also lead you to be able to tune in to your home.

Observe how you think and how you act

This will guide you if you are installed in negativity, complaints and stress or if you are installed in the positive and realistic attitude of living in the present and adapting to the circumstances that come and go, making decisions according to the moment.

Create your own mother model

You may be a mother at home, at work or in another way. There is no single or perfect model of mother. Everything has its advantages and your children can feel loved and cared for in many ways, but the important thing is that you are well. Children need to see you happy and living in coherence, something very important.

Organize your time realistically

Make daily or weekly lists of things to do and organize your time without “squeezing” the agenda too much. Wanting to be very productive does not translate into being efficient. Bet on the balance between caring, being well, being happy and living a full and quality life.

Ask for help

It is assertive, intelligent, useful and very fruitful for you and everyone in the family to ask our environment for help. Likewise, thanks to the family members or trusted and caring people that we have nearby, you will be able to organize yourself better, as well as dedicate time to things that nourish you and that you cannot usually do.

Don't try to do everything perfect

It is normal to enter a phase in which you feel that you do not achieve everything and that you do not manage to do anything completely well, whether as a mother, partner, worker or friend. It's like you stop being you. Don't worry, this is human and normal. When you feel that you are entering a “crisis”, stop, breathe, prioritize and keep in mind that this is only a phase, and that what you have reached today is already perfect.

Surround yourself with positive people

There are studies that reveal that we become and are also infected by what we are surrounded by.

Make time for yourself and do things you like

Do something you love: dancing, taking courses, traveling, making friends, doing therapy...This is vital and a “must” prescription for all mothers. Look for your Zen moments of relaxation, of inner peace, of reconnecting with yourself and recharging your battery.

And above all, keep in mind that no matter how dark the day sometimes gets, “this too shall pass.” The life you live today is not the life of tomorrow, nor the life of a few months, nor the life of the next few years. Take advantage of the good that this moment also brings you, stop complaining and relativize what is uncomfortable for you by putting a little damper on your life.

Article contributed by Ana Asensio, psychologist from Vidas en Positivo.