"Children do not come to change our lives. They come to improve it" 2026

I think you will agree with me when I say that there is a particular question that constantly haunts us throughout our lives: what is the best age to have children? There are some who think that it is best to have them when you are a teenager. Nowadays it is even more common to meet women who prefer to wait until they are around 40 to be able to dedicate time to developing professionally in their 30s and, as they commonly say, “live life” first. Opinions on this topic are as diverse as the lives that each of us lead.

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I wanted to touch on this topic because someone asked me this question, and I tried to give an answer so that the girl would be satisfied, but it had a greater effect on me because I kept thinking about that question for days and I told myself: many women must be wondering the same thing, and thinking about it, I think I also asked myself that question years ago when I was making the decision to be a mother. I believe that there is an ideal age to have children: the age at which we become aware that having a child is much more than changing our lifestyle, or no longer having time to do the things we like, or losing the freedom we have to come and go as we choose. Having a child does not just mean forgetting to sleep late on Sundays, or putting aside our personal and professional dreams.

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All women are biologically prepared to be mothers at any time in our lives. What we must change is the image of being mothers. Motherhood, far from meaning imprisonment, is an awakening. Far from mutilating our development as women, it enhances it. What a mother is capable of doing for a child is infinite, and so infinitely does her power to materialize what she proposes grows, even for herself.

If we see being mothers as a relationship between two, mother and child, suddenly the door opens to an infinitely enriching world. Our children come into this world holding our hand and needing our guidance, yes. But they also come as our teachers, to give us lessons that no one else could give us, and that is actually the most valuable thing about being mothers. Children do not come to change our lives. They come to improve it. To exponentially increase our capacity to love, to feel, to create, to solve, to live a fuller life. A child means acquiring new responsibilities, but responsibilities, far from being a burden, are an opportunity to become consistent with our actions, to mature, to evolve as human beings. If we begin to see being mothers in a more spiritual and less earthly way, planning the best moment in the physical world takes a backseat. The worries about whether we are going to have time to dedicate to them fade away because that infinite love of mothers is going to ensure that we do find the time. The anxiety of whether we are going to have the economic resources to support them dissipates, because we trust in ourselves.

Your moment is the right moment

If you are not yet a mother and you want to be, open your heart and your conscience. Trust that his timing is perfect and that your children will arrive at the right time. If you were a young mother and you think that perhaps you would have wanted your children to arrive when you were a little older, trust that they arrived at the right time for you, for your personal growth, for the path that you both needed to take.

The moment we open our consciousness to receive the experience of being mothers, confident that the moment in which it occurs is the precise one in our destiny, we will find the answer to what is the right time to have a child, regardless of age. And whatever your answer is, it is the correct answer.

Written by Martiza Rodríguez is an actress born in Colombia, mother of twins, woman, wife and businesswoman. Find out more about her on her blog.

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